I help you rein in the chaos so that you can reach your power and potential
Emotional Empowerment Coach, Writer, Podcaster, Fierce Feminist, Superhero Nerd, a Daughter, and a non-judgemental Friend that will always let you get your weird on; I help people show up as their most authentic self enhanced for maximum impact.
By learning to regulate and harness my emotions, I have gone from a chaotic, broken woman to a strong, focused badass. I made my rock bottom my bi**ch and it was so much fun, I have been teaching others to do the same ;)
You see, the happy, healthy successes of the world don’t have better resources, or a higher IQ, they’re people adept at regulating and using their emotions to drive better results. Be it your personal, professional, or social life, emotional intelligence is the key to unlocking the next level, and my life and every good day I’ve had in the past few years is a testimony to the power of Emotional Intelligence.
To clarify things a little, let me take you through the defining moments of my life…
You know those moments when your emotions spin out of control to the extent where it feels like your skin is one size too small for your body, and there’s a desperate need to bawl in foetal position, and crush something valuable and big hopefully by throwing it at someone’s head, all at the same time?
My life was a series of such destructive moments, one after the other. Outwardly, I was wracking-up accomplishments and accolades, but on the inside, it was a shit show of massive proportions.
I don’t know how else to put it!
As a kid, I had a temper problem along with a few other issues, and instead of identifying it as something workable with perhaps trauma at the base of it, the adults in my life dismissed it as ‘who I was’ – an angry, unfriendly, socially awkward kid. Of course, there was so much more to the story. The need for isolation, constant disembodiment, over the top aggression, all of it was a cry for help. Clearly, I had no healthy mediums of expression. This continued into adulthood which means I never had healthy friendships or any sense of belonging – at least, not for the first 21 years of my life.
During my year abroad, I was able to pause the maelstrom for a while; that year was like time out of time…I made new friends, I went out on dates… attended one of the best unis, hob-knobbed with some of the most brilliant people I’ve ever met and actually made a good impression. For the first time in my life, I considered the idea that I was more than the labels others had pushed onto me. Unfortunately, that wave of confidence didn’t last; my problems were rooted in my subconscious and needed deep healing.
As soon I got back home, it was back to the same old crowd trying to put me into the same old box which unleashed a dangerous identity crisis.
I simply couldn’t reconcile the person that I had discovered while away with the person my old ‘crowd’ expected to see me as; I just couldn’t figure out a way to fully be this new person and have others see me as such.
Obviously, that constant push and pull wasn’t going to end well, but it went in a direction I didn’t expect.
My body was the first one to give up on me. I started having debilitating migraines followed by loss of appetite, insomnia, and just to make it a real party, my mind went apeshit with violent hallucinations thrown into the mix.
This led to the abuse of painkillers, and to my eternal shame, self-harm as well, but life is kind and it likes to give us timely wake-up calls. I got mine when I collapsed in the middle of a deserted road at night and woke-up confused and in pain. As soon as I gained a little awareness, I was incredibly grateful that I wasn’t in the back of somebody’s van heading for a premature demise. I have never felt fear like that; I also felt very, very sure that universe had just issued me a very firm, final warning.
I immediately sought professional help. Apart from the detox, meditation, and other health programs, I was asked to attend therapy, and this is where it gets interesting. As an intensely private person, I hated the idea of therapy and went into it with a lot of resentment, but in less than a month, I was a different person or I was re-discovering the person I had seen a little glimpse of during my year abroad, only better!
I stopped having angry outbursts (huge deal because anger was my one constant companion for 24 years!), I was able to express myself and my needs to my parents and friends and slowly, I rebuilt my self-confidence and instead of the scared, rejected child, I found a way to let my inner badass lead.
All along, I had just needed someone to listen. I had needed to redefine myself without anyone looking at me with scepticism, doubting my abilities.
I needed to express without judgement…speak my truth without fearing condemnation…claim a better future without being reminded of my past.
Mastering my emotions amplified the good in my life, and muted the bad to a dull roar.
Emotional-awareness and mastery, effective communication, open expression – these skills saved my life and helped me go beyond my limitations. My recovery and the learnings that followed made me want to give back by helping others in similar situations. I did volunteer work with young adults and abuse victims and each experience strengthened my belief that emotional empowerment is the key to a better future. I watched others take possession of their life by learning to harness their emotions – those experiences were always beyond gratifying which is what led me to this path.
I became a coach, podcaster, and even an entrepreneur to further my one goal –
Building an emotionally intelligent world so that there’s more joy, creativity, innovation, love, and laughter, and the challenges along the way are embraced with equanimity and used as stepping stones to the next level of growth.
The journey of emotional empowerment may not be easy, but at EVERY corner there is a pot of gold. We all have so much power within us…if we can learn to leash the chaos, we can all be unstoppable.
As a coach, I use my personal experience as well as my professional learnings to help my clients go deep into their story & cultivate awareness around their beliefs and anything else that may be holding them back. We build a clear vision of what we want and armed with that awareness, we begin the work of building a strong emotional base and a narrative in alignment with our goals and interests. I use my podcast, blog, trainings, and private sessions to share information and practical exercises around the subject of emotional empowerment and more.
Books have been my most constant companions. They’ve given me comfort, taken me on adventures, challenged me, and nurtured my mind & soul. Currently exploring the works of Stephen King and Toni Morrison.
More than anything else, I am defined by my love for my parents, and my mom is definitely the force behind my more courageous and bold moves.
A culture curious traveller. Every time I land in a new country, I can feel my soul smile.
Journaling, prayer, & meditation – the gatekeepers of my inner sanctum
Love horror movies, ghost stories, & spooky adventures of all kinds
Guiding Figures – Batman, Marcus Aurelius, & Fyodor Dostoyevsky
Love picnics in open, green spaces with lots of sunshine
MASSIVE SUPERHERO NERD
(My pep talks are littered with superhero instances & they are HELLA inspiring)
Maintain a cruelty-free lifestyle
Drink chocolate milkshakes & coffee, exclusively
(…and water, of course!)
Crave silence, lonely walks through large museums, and old libraries
Enneagram 4/ INFJ
…and now that you know me a little better, let’s get to work!
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