Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
What happens when you get into an argument with your child? Is it a lot of yelling with you laying down the law? Or Is it cajoling and subtle emotional manipulation?
Here’s a healthy alternative –
Listen, process, understand, share, and resolve.
Really listen to what the problem is with an open mind.
Before you do anything else, process all the information that has been shared.
Now, look at it not just from an adult’s perspective but from a child’s perspective as well. This will allow you to understand better. Share your thought process. As you reach a decision, think out loud. Involve your child in the process.
After all the above steps, if the issue is still unresolved, instead of imposing your will on the child, come up with a bunch of options that are acceptable to you. Let your child pick one.
Now, your child realises that h/she has been heard. They know you did your best to understand, and out of a list of acceptable options, they have been given THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE.
The last one will make the most difference. The little person is being given an opportunity to take charge. He gets to choose! This will resolve the situation without further dissent.