When did self-development become a fad? Everyone is talking about it! Except sadly, it seems as if it has been reduced to owning the latest self-help book, getting on a vegan diet, and participating in existential discussions over mimosas at brunch!
Self-growth is a big ambition, and it will not happen till you’re healed.
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Healing is what we are all chasing in this world. To be healed of every possible hurt and pain is to be truly healthy and happy, and that opens the door for self-growth. It is not a joke, and it is not a walk in the park either!
People delight in telling me how they are changing for the better because they laugh so much more and they get through their day without complaining. I am happy for those people, but self-growth isn’t about getting through a day without tantrums. It’s not as simple as making more friends and being the life of the party.
True self-growth happens when you resolve issues that have haunted you for years. It’s about processing past memories that break your heart and keep you awake at night.
You know you’ve grown when you’ve made your peace with your failings, and you’re no longer dependent on validation from others. It is a conscious and continuous process of change that requires sacrifice and discipline.
Reading a self-help book and deciding to be happy all the time isn’t going to do it. It would be like slapping a band-aid on a bullet wound. Instead of helping, it’s simply going to do more damage.
You need to take out the bullet, cauterise the wound, and wrap it in clean bandages. Then, you have to check those bandages every day until the wound completely heals. Even then, there will be a scar you’ll carry around for the rest of your life. It’s the perfect analogy!
For people who have suffered severe emotional traumas or spent years on a self-destructive path, the process of healing is going to be a painful one. There is a lot you must do before you can begin to heal. Let’s talk about what those things are.
Pay heed my friend, because if you don’t consciously do these things, someday you’ll be shaken out of your smug self-satisfaction and forced back to square one.